How to deal with an unclear situation with my ex-husband

Good evening, the situation is such - lived with a man for 3 years. After I got pregnant, and at six months he had another girl. We separated. His girlfriend hindered communication with the child, he came rarely, but alimony is always paid. At first there was a lot of anger at him, but over time it passed, we just communicated calmly. Now I do not understand what is going on. After 4 years, he came to the child and stayed for a couple of days. All those days they played all day, stopping only for naps and lunch. In the evening when I put the baby to bed and we got to talking, he kissed me, to which I reciprocated (the relationship was after him), but his lips are just so familiar and I couldn't resist. During these days there was no more kissing or anything else. He kept trying to snuggle, hug, kiss. When he left, he also asked me to walk him to the door. I walked him to the door and he kissed me there too. My question is, what was he doing that for? Did he want to come back? I, in turn, have now filled my head and seems to have fallen in love with him all over again. What to do in this situation, how to deal? Now I think about him all the time.

Why does the child steal.

My son is 12 years old, he constantly steals everywhere: at home, in the store, he even robbed his beloved teacher. Persuasion, punishment does not work on him. Until the age of 10, he was registered with a neurologist with a diagnosis of hyperactivity, attention deficit disorder, now he is suffering from hypertension. He also spoils property, both his own and someone else's, for example, he likes to throw something at cars.

Not interested in living

Hello. My name is Galina, I’m 55 years old, I’m old and I’m no longer interested in living, and I don’t want to - I’m just serving my life, like in an uninteresting job - it’s like I have to go, they pay a salary, I do something, and not just joy no, there is no even desire to do something. I understand that in Africa people live worse than me, and I'm wandering around here. I stopped understanding why I should take care of my health, because. I don't want to live to 80, and I don't even want to live to 70 - what should I do in a decrepit body? It's not about the meaning of life, it doesn't exist, just like a monkey or a cockroach has no meaning. And I don't want to live.

Starting to hate myself

I'm 36 now and a couple of weeks ago I started to realize that I've changed a lot in recent years. I have a good job in a normal company, have a girlfriend with whom I kind of had a good relationship (although now I'm not so sure about that anymore). But it's not like that, everything is going wrong, everything is on automatic. Yesterday I had another scandal over nothing with one of my friends. And it finally dawned on me that I have become more and more irritated by habit, like a robot, like a machine, like some kind of mechanism. And I don't like what's happening to me. I'm beginning to hate myself little by little. I understand that in these situations it can be useful to consult a psychologist. My question is more about something else, and maybe a little strange. What can a psychologist give me in my situation? Advice about how to get myself in the right frame of mind? Or will the psychologist give his assessment from the outside - what is going on with me? I just don't understand how psychologists can help in a situation like mine. I tried to be as frank as I could. I would be grateful if you could answer.

How do I understand a girl?

Hello! I have this question, how do I understand a girl? And what she wants to achieve? I met a girl, moved to live with her in another city, rented an apartment, lived for 2 months, then there were financial difficulties, and I had to leave. We did not correspond for three months, then I wrote her a sms that I still have feelings for her, in response I received a sms that she loves me, waits for me, cannot live without me, and says that I must come and wait! A week later, she says she is moving to another man to live with her! How can I understand her? What does she want to say? Thank you.

Hands shaking with excitement

I want advice and help. In situations when I'm worried, my hands began to shake violently. Never noticed this before. But, probably, about six months ago, when communicating with my director, he became very nervous and my hands began to tremble. And now I’m already nervous even before I start communicating with the director or another boss, since I already know in advance that my hands will tremble and I’m very worried about this. It's even starting to make me nauseous. Now I'm thinking about getting another job, but I probably won't be able to pass the interview because of this problem.

A guy liked a few girls.

Hello. I had a boyfriend, my first love, he is the first in everything, we dated for two years. During that time of our relationship he left me, but then he came back, realized he couldn't be without me and I forgave him. Then he liked someone else and I didn't like it, I was hysterical, called him names, but he said he loved me and wouldn't let me go. Now, at this moment, he liked another woman again...And it pissed me off, I was hysterical to him, but he claimed to love me, but I didn't believe it. And yesterday I dumped him and he texted me "That's it, I definitely don't need anything from you now"...I still can't understand that it's over. I want him back. What should I do?

How to fill out a color relationship test in psychology?

Hello, please tell me how to correctly fill out the color test of relationships in psychology?

I'm having a breakdown with my husband.

Hello, I have a request to you. I will describe my situation, help me understand it. I work as a teacher, I am doing well at school, but as soon as I come home, I can throw a tantrum at my husband, and at innocuous remarks, I do not know how to restrain myself, advise me how to be, maybe some books to read or somehow learn to calm down. I'm afraid that my husband will not be able to tolerate it anymore and will leave me, and I love him very much and I do not want that. I don't want to hurt him, but alas I do.

No relationship experience

Hello. My problem is simple and at the same time very confusing. The fact is that I am already 22 years old and I have never had any kind of sexual relationship (I have never even kissed a girl, everything is so bad). For a while, I thought that the moment would present itself and you should not rush, it’s just that I don’t even have such a desire to sleep with a girl I don’t like. Because of this, lately, I feel insecure and notorious, unlike all my other peers and people older than me. The situation was aggravated by the fact that I recently met a girl whom I truly love, and, as an evil, she is only interested in "experienced" men in this matter. Please help me solve this problem. What should I do? Shouldn't I go and gain experience with every person I meet?

Will Hellinger's method of formulation help me

In this video, we'll be discussing Will Hellinger's method of formulation, which is a helpful tool for scientists and engineers. If you're looking for a way to improve your scientific or engineering skills, then Hellinger's method of formulation is a great way to start. This method allows you to more easily grasp complex concepts and relationships, which will help you improve your understanding of complex phenomena. So don't miss out on this video, where we'll be discussing Hellinger's method of formulation and how it can help you! In this video, we'll be discussing Will Hellinger's method of formulation, which is a helpful tool for scientists and engineers.If you're looking for a way to improve your scientific or engineering skills, then Hellinger's method of formulation is a great way to start. This method allows you to more easily grasp complex concepts and relationships, which will help you improve your understanding of complex phenomena. So don't miss out on this video, where we'll be discussing Hellinger's method of formulation and how it can help you!

Attachment with people

A year and a half ago, I met a guy on the Internet. There were common interests in almost everything. 5 months was very good and bright communication. But then I had a difficult period in my life, I just psychologically could not communicate so "deeply" with someone, because I was constantly in my own world. Therefore, the communication ended, I regretted for a while, but then somehow forgot. 9 months passed and suddenly she felt sad and decided to explain the past (then she did not explain the reason to him). Communication began again, but more intensely. Then we passionately communicate with him all day, the next, a couple of three messages and that's it. I know that there are other girls with whom he corresponds. And I'm pretty jealous about it, so that makes things even more complicated. I should probably say that there is no particular sympathy here. Yes, I like it, maybe even as a guy, but without continuing. And so always in life I become attached to even the most unfamiliar people. When they are kind to me and interested in me as a person, that's all, I lose my head, I trust, and I'm a melancholic and it really means a lot to me. Maybe there are some leading questions that will help me solve this problem? I will be very grateful.

LAZINESS IS A SYMPTOM OF PSYCHOPATHOLOGY

Laziness is far from being a normal quality; it is a symptom of psychopathology. Truly one of the worst forms of mental suffering, a person is boredom, not knowing what to do with himself and his life. Even if a person were to receive no monetary or other reward, he would still seek to use his energy in some meaningful way, for he could not endure the boredom generated by idleness.

My husband criticizes me for being overweight, what should I do?

I really need advice. My husband constantly criticizes me because I am overweight. Not that these were specific claims, but just trifles. Hairpins, hints, jokes. I pretend it doesn't bother me. But actually I'm really worried about it. I have a little extra weight - it's true. And I even tried to lose weight, but after a couple of days of any diet I break down. Because of this, I'm angry with myself, I'm angry with him. I'm afraid that I might break loose one day and I don't know where it will lead. I'm scared at the thought that he might leave me, but the resentment eats me up. What should I do, what should I tell him, how to get out of this problem.

The trap of relationships.

Why do people live together for a long time, torment each other and can't break up?

Covers with jealousy.

I never would have thought that I would be so covered with jealousy. I'm a fairly confident person, at least I was. I am already 32 years old. We've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 years. For the past year and a half, something has clicked in me. I trust her and understand with my mind that there are no reasons for jealousy. But when she stays late in the evenings - and she has such a job - it just began to cover me. I start to get nervous at five o'clock. And in the evening it seems to me that someone is pestering her, and all sorts of nonsense like that. There doesn't seem to be any reason for such thoughts. But I'm covered in such a way that by the time she arrives, I'm already inflated like a shell. I can explode over little things, I can flare up over little things. Then, of course, I am ashamed and I apologize, I find all sorts of justifications. But all this has a bad effect on our relations. There is already some pressure. I'm on the edge myself. He tortured her and himself. What to do? Tell??

MASOCHISM IN A RELATIONSHIP

It is important that we know what kind of togetherness we mean when we talk about love. Either we mean love as a mature response to the problem of existence, or we are talking about immature forms of love, which may be called symbiotic union.

Protracted depression - how to break this circle

Protracted depression - how to break this circle I can't get out of the vicious circle. I divorced my husband six months ago. I thought that I could start a new life, but I just can’t reconfigure to a new wave. Everything seems to be fine at work, I work in a banking structure, but everything has become somehow black and white and insipid. Girlfriends with whom it was previously interesting to communicate are moving away from me, and I don’t really want to be imposed. It got to the point where there was no one to complain to. But lately, I've been having a bit of a bad feeling. So vague and sad. What do they do in a similar situation - how do psychologists help solve this problem? I would be very grateful for your recommendations.

IS BARGAINING ACCEPTABLE?

When negotiating, you don't know what's on the other person's mind or how much pressure the other person is under, and you're certainly in the dark about the other person's intentions before the negotiation begins. You could have understood something during the conversation with the buyer - but by writing "Negotiation is acceptable," you deprived yourself of the opportunity to find out the real state of affairs. The buyer, on the other hand, already knows something about your intentions thanks to the "Negotiation is acceptable" ad, that is, even before the meeting with you. There is an asymmetry in the position of the parties - and not in your favor!

Do you constantly think about the past and don't know what to do?

I broke up with my boyfriend three months ago. He left me and is now dating his ex. We met with him for about 2 years. And it seemed to me that everything we have with him is real and forever. But lately we have been constantly arguing, cursing over trifles. It seemed to me that he became inattentive and irritable because of any little thing. In the end, I told him everything. Everyone talked a lot. And so we parted. I felt in my heart that something was wrong a month before it all happened. And it seems like at times I stop thinking about him, and in the evening my mood drops and I just can’t switch. A couple of days ago I even thought to call, I found an excuse. But she took matters into her own hands. Tell me how to turn this page of life?

I can not restore communication with my dear person.

I can not restore communication with my dear person. I have a serious problem. I greatly offended and insulted my girlfriend, with whom I had a long friendship. I didn’t think it would turn out like this, but a lot of nonsense was said on emotions. I want to admit that such quirks on my part were before. But then we somehow reconciled. And this time it was worse - I got very carried away. My friend cut off all contact with me. I tried through our friends to convey to her that I regret what happened and that I want to make peace. But she put up a wall between us. I feel bad without her. Now I understand how important it is to me. I don't need any other friends. I feel very lonely. What should I do? I don't understand how to get it back.

Test from a psychologist

Hello! Why did the psychologist suggest that his daughter imagine herself as a dish, plant, weapon, decoration and draw a picture. Those who consider themselves specialists are also different people. This psychologist is very young, as a mother I need an explanation of this test. The daughter is already an adult, she has a codependency problem with her husband. So what is the point of this test?

Help me to understand Please help me understand the situation. I have been married for 13 years, I have a daughter, everything seems to be fine, but a conflict arose when my mother-in-law came to visit us. Actually, the mother-in-law is not to blame herself and we never even quarreled with her, but a couple of weeks ago my wife told me about her arrival to visit us. A week before the arrival, endless cleaning and preparation for this event began. I won’t say that this is bad, but at home, it’s not a pigsty, but just in general, such diligence in cleaning that I saw was bewildering. I work for myself, and it happens that I am more or less free, but it happens that there is no free minute. I was very busy that day. My wife called me and said that I would bring my daughter money for a tutor. And at the same time I peeled the potatoes and cooked the chicken for the mother-in-law's arrival. I brought the money, but I refused to do everything else, referring to the fact that I was busy. Yes, and as I was told, the mother-in-law was supposed to arrive only tomorrow. In the evening, I stopped by and took my wife from work, on the way home I listened to all the claims. Having changed clothes, he ran into the yard to poke around under the soot, and when he returned, he found out (and then from a conversation between his wife and daughter) that our mother had already arrived today and was dragging herself to us on a trolleybus. I will make a reservation that the car is on the move and the breakdown was not significant. For some, these are trifles, but I have such a grudge against my wife that I left home. Why make me look like such a bastard in front of my mom? And I didn’t cook food and didn’t meet. I don't call her, and she doesn't call me. Now I don't know what to do.